Dating tips on having better relationships.
How do you tell if someone is honest? What are some things to change if you want to find an honest man? Find Yourself And Prioritize YOU Most of all, remember that it isn’t your fault! So, don’t shame yourself. You were never taught any of this! Be proud of yourself that you want to start learning what you’ve never known. You might want to start [...]
The Gender Spectrum Collection Trauma bonds in relationships happen when a powerful, emotional attachment develops between a survivor of prolonged abuse and the perpetrator of abuse. It can be hard to break trauma bonds in relationships due to the intensity of the attachment, but there are multiple ways to heal and move on. Healing Trauma Bonds in Relationships The best thing for you to do is to start by taking one step. Then, when [...]
Working on your relationship doesn’t have to be limited to weekly therapy sessions or serious talks after the kids are in bed. It can also include fun date ideas in Santa Monica! Stepping out on the town with your partner and an attitude of discovery can enrich both your lives and your romance. Therapy takes a lot of energy. It’s a process that brings people closer to their authentic selves by direct contact with some tough [...]
Photo by Zackary Drucker as part of Broadly's Gender Spectrum Collection. Credit: The Gender Spectrum Collection. Made available to media outlets via Creative Commons. No derivatives, no commercial use. See guidelines here: broadlygenderphotos.vice.com/guidelines It is important to be able to tell the difference between healthy dependency vs codependency. Healthy dependency is called interdependency and helps you be your best self. Codependency happens when you are taking on most of the responsibility for the relationship, [...]
What is gaslighting? Are you being gaslighted? Gaslighting is most common in romantic relationships, but it can happen in any kind of relationship where there is a power imbalance. A power imbalance can exist between boss and employee, teacher and student, parent and child, and between husband and wife. You might feel dependent on the other person, and that you need them more than they need you. Then they can try to use your need and [...]
When you’re flirting with a potential love interest, you’re dazzled by why relationships are wonderful, not cautioned by why relationships are hard. So what if floating on air and talking all night aren’t sustainable behaviors? Your brain is taking a nice long bubble bath in love hormones, and you couldn’t get out if you tried. By the time you do drag your shriveled self from the water, you may find yourself sworn to a new relationship. [...]
If you are codependent, you are most likely having problems with self esteem. You might be wondering how codependency and low self esteem go together. In order to having a strong sense of self esteem, you must feel connected to your core inner self so that you can tune into how to love and care for yourself. Codependency is when your life revolves around someone else, and you lose that vital connection to yourself. What Is [...]
Happiness. It’s a feeling, an art and even a science. And relationships are often mentioned when happiness is discussed. Since relationships are complex, how relationships affect happiness is a study in itself. There’s no question that love can make you feel good, great, over-the-moon. But you can’t assume that happiness is dependent on love, or that relationships can “make” you happy. It should come as no surprise that satisfying relationships influence the lives of those in [...]
The goal of emotional abuse is to control, belittle, isolate and shame you into subservience. At first, they entrap you with intense romance. Then they slowly isolate you so you become more and more dependent on them. But, can emotional abuse make you sick? Your sense of self-worth, self-confidence, and having your own ideas and perceptions erode. Over time, you lose your autonomy and sense of well-being. When people come to my office, most of the [...]
What codependency looks like is when one person slowly becomes much too dependent on the other person. Over time, one person takes too much responsibility for keeping in touch and connecting. The other person does too little, pulls back and withholds care, time and effort. Often, this will happen early on while dating. As one person withdraws, the other trys to make up for it by over functioning and working way too hard on the relationship. [...]
