Menopause is a life-changing rite of passage, so it is no wonder menopause and divorce can go hand in hand. Learning how to address your conflicts before it’s too late is important. For couples over 55, the divorce rate is rising. It turns out that 60 percent of divorces are initiated by women in their…
It can be surprising, and even shocking, when repressed childhood trauma shows up when you are an adult. Unfortunately, the past does not always stay in the past. When you have childhood trauma, you can get used to normalizing unhealthy behavior. Therefore, you may not even realize your family was dysfunctional. As an adult, you…
Chronic procrastination is often misunderstood. People will misinterpret and simplify procrastination as you just being lazy. This can cause you to feel chronic shame and guilt for not being more productive and on top of things. This leads to low self esteem. Let’s consider chronic procrastination as a trauma response. Trauma from your past, or…
We should not underestimate the trauma of being an adult child of divorce. Divorce is the death of a marriage, therefore, healing the trauma of adult children inevitably involves grief. As an adult child of divorce, you probably don’t even realize you are grieving. This type of grief can often be invisible and unacknowledged. You…
Vulnerable narcissism, also known as covert or insecure narcissism, avoids the spotlight and uses passive-aggressive communication as a way to control others. They aren’t exactly introverted, but instead lack the self confidence of an overt narcissist. They are afraid of being exposed or humiliated, and constantly play the victim. Beware The Tyranny Of The Weak…
Being cheated on can be so emotionally devastating that is causes infidelity trauma. Infidelity trauma is similar to having post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). The stress, anxiety and intense emotions make it difficult to function. You might be feeling panicky, like your heart is pounding, your brain feels fuzzy and you are crying all the…
Neurofeedback for anxiety can help reduce fear and worry. A main component of anxiety is the repetitive, negative thoughts that create chronic fear and worry. Neurofeedback helps quiet the mind so that stressful events don’t bother you as much and recovery is faster and needs less or no medication. If your brain is in a…
If you are going through menopause and angry with your husband or partner, help is available. Some women experience deep rage to the point of exploding at your partner. Therapy can help you understand and manage the intense emotions caused by the reduction in hormones during this phase of life. Most women go through this…
Covert narcissism, also called vulnerable narcissism, is a less obvious form of narcissism. Covert narcissism seems to effect from 0.5% to 5% of the US population. The covert narcissist constantly seeks reassurance about their talents and skills. They demand that others validate, recognize and admire them. They use passive-aggressive tactics in order to gain control…
Moral injury is a specific type of trauma that arises if you face a situation that deeply violates and damages your conscience or core values. When you have a vision of the world as a fair and good place and something you’ve done or witnessed destroys that vision. If your moral compass has been turned…